資料來源: Michael Marlowe: http://blog.17messages.com/2013/04/invitation-to-speak.html
邁可‧馬爾洛 (Michael Marlowe)是一位資深企業諮詢顧問、精神指導師、治療師、作家。他目前聚焦於協助領導者與個人在自體、與他人關係、社區中的成長與療癒。邁可正積極推廣能量智慧的學習，探索圓圈的智慧，教導人們從生態系統中的模式中直接學習。他近年來所撰寫的文章，重點均凝聚於集體意願以及集體行動上，他也是系統改變學院(Academy for Systemic Change)的創始合夥人。在這之前，他擁有三十年的經驗，在財富雜誌所選出的頂尖50家企業中推動永續企業的創造和營造健康工作環境，創造了斐然的成果。他是組織學習協會(Society of Organization Learning)的創辦會員。
“Invitation To Speak"
There are different energies present in listening; among the strongest of these is the “invitation to speak.”
“Tell me your story. Tell it to me in whatever way is satisfying for you. Take all the time you need. Tell it fast or slow. It doesn’t need to be perfect all well thought out. Speak from the heart or mind. I will hold whatever you tell me with care. I am here to listen to you and learn. Tell me how could I be the most helpful to you?”
How often do you encounter this invitation? How often do you offer this invitation?
In every meeting among friends, strangers, family, coworkers, there is an invitation to speak. This invitation maybe open, closed, qualified, contingent, expectant. The invitation to speak is dynamic and can be changed. Here are some quick examples of types of invitation to speak:
- Listen to me, defer and add comments that build on mine
- Just give me the headlines. I’ll let you know if I want more.
- Slow down, take your time, tell me exactly what happened. Don’t leave anything out.
- Appreciate my ideas; tell me I’m doing the right thing.
- Tell me something interesting that I don’t know. I’ll keep listening as long as it interests me.
- I love the sound of your voice. Please continue.
- Even though I asked you a question–don’t spend a lot of time answering it.
The presence or absence of listening shapes the space. The reason that this is so important is that “listening is the foundation for all possibilities.” So invitation shapes what is possible.
Now invitation to speak is about more that just listening. We each help one another grow and develop. Fundamental to our growth as humans is the development of voice. Voice is the expression of being of who we are. Now voice is both the physical voice and all the other ways humans express themselves. Art of all kinds, music of all kinds, sustained passion of all kinds are all “expressions of being." Any form of service or deep caring for people, animals, water, land, plants can be an “expression of being." Some people express their being in the nature and quality of their work and craft. In all of these forms of expression, listening and engaging provides a true service in helping someone develop his or her voice.
The invitation to speak that we grow up with as children shapes our ability to express our being – who we truly are, the light we bring into the world.
In the person’s development of her voice is critical to feeling whole. She feels whole, deeply satisfied, connected when she can express her being unrestricted in a simple, bold, clear, warm flow. This can occur when someone uses her voice – for example to speak the truth or to speak from the heart. In order for this development to occur in children, a supportive invitation to speak is necessary. Many adults never have this as children, so their expression of being is limited. This affects everyone and is a source of sadness.
Further develop your invitation to speak. Look for opportunities to support people to develop their voice, express their being, and share their light. Parents further develop you invitation to speak with your children. Leaders examine the invitation to speak in your community. Teachers further develop the invitation to speak – inviting children to “express their being" in your classroom.
Source: Michael Marlowe: http://blog.17messages.com/2013/04/invitation-to-speak.html
Michael Marlowe is executive consultant, spiritual coach, healer, and writer. Currently he focuses on supporting leaders and individuals to promote growth and healing within themselves, their relationships and within communities. Michael is bringing forward a body of work on energetic intelligence, which taps the wisdom of circles and teaches people to work more directly with patterns present in living systems. His latest writings are about collective intention and collective action, and he is a founding partner of the Academy for Systemic Change. Previously, Michael spent thirty years creating sustained business results and producing healthy work environments in Fortune 50 companies and was a founding member of the Society of Organization Learning.