CP Yen Foundation will host “Dialogue Impact Award” to appreciate those who embodies the dialogue culture. To increase the understanding of dialogue, we have posted short articles on Dialogue FB since March. This Spring issue is aimed at the 10 potholes in the Dialogue (from the book “ The Magic of Dialogue” ) , connecting the dialogical behaviors with zodiac characteristics. Hope you will find it interesting !

10 Common Dialogue Potholes for Different Zodiac Signs

By Soma, Miss Belle and Mademoiselle Rachel

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Can you make a conversation?
Is there a pothole in their brain or is there a hole in our mindset?
Let us take a look at some of the common dialogue potholes for different zodiac signs. 

I. Holding Back: Difficulty in initiating a conversation

A. Cancer (June 22-July 22)
Cancer like to guess what other people are thinking; however, they seldom reveal their inner feelings. They value other people’s feelings. Before they make sure if their ideas would be acceptable, they rather stay quiet!

B. Taurus (April 20-May 20)
Somewhat quiet, Taurus like to express their feelings through music or arts. In conversations, they like metaphors. It’s often difficult to understand what they really want to say.
 
II. Being locked into a box: being stuck in his or her own head

A. Capricorn (Dec 21-Jan 20)
A person who likes to follow the rules, Capricorn often find themselves stuck in their own boxes. To take them out of that established framework, they sometimes search for answers through books or other publications. But by doing so, they are again following a set frame.

B.Cancer (June 22-July 22)
Cancer like to think with their familiar habits and ideas. In fact, they believe they do so because these habits are the right ways. That is why they are locked by their own thoughts.
 
III. Prematurely moving to action: Wait! We are not there yet!

A. Aries (March 21-April 19)
Always impulsive, Aries are often too busy moving ahead before hearing or understanding what people are telling them. Or they feel like they know everything and just take action right away.

B. Sagittarius (Nov 22-Dec 20)
Sagittarius have the vision but lack in clear strategies. They often overlook the necessary details. Sometimes even when they hear you, the messages are not digested into their systems. So they often act before thinking.
 
IV. Listening without hearing: Did you hear me?

A. Virgo (August 23-Sept 22)
Virgo’s head is filled with their own thoughts and ideas, so it’s hard for them to listen. They often choose to endure rather than communicating, and they may complain too. As they complain, it’s harder for them to listen.

B. Gemini (May 21-June 21)
Always on the lookout for something new, Gemini only listen to what they like, such as gossips or the latest news. They are quite used to not listening. As soon as the conversation steers away from their preferred topics, their minds stray too.
 
V. Starting at different points：We say this and you say that

A. Aquarius (Jan 21-Feb 19)
Often thinking in free association, Aquarius often look at things in different perspectives. Sometimes these viewpoints are refreshing and well received; other times these ideas may miss the points altogether, making people wonder: do you know what we are talking about?

B.Gemini (May 21-June 21)
Gemini like happy conversations. Sometimes they come up with ideas they may not necessarily agree to but feel appropriate at the time just to keep the conversation interesting. While they think that would be fun, the topics may not be that appropriate.
 
VI. Showboating: Going overboard

A. Leo (July 23-August 22)
Fearful of being left out or ignored, Leo sometimes deliberately show off traits lacking in others to be the center of attention. And they tend to go overboard in their showboating.

B. Gemini (May 21-June 21)
Gemini are good at changing conversations in different situations; as the result, they pick their words accordingly. Although Gemini are not showy, they may not be sincere in what they say.
 
VII. Scoring debate points: forever argumentative

A. Virgo (August 23-Sept 22)
Virgo never miss a chance to find faults. Due to their complaining nature and attention to details, they are excellent debaters.

B. Aquarius (Jan 21-Feb 19)
Born rebels, Aquarius love to take the opposite side just for the sake of it. They like to push the boundary on ideas and values to establish new norms.
 
VIII. Contrarianism: always on the other side

A. Aquarius (Jan 21-Feb 19)
Aquarius just have to be different. They would be bored otherwise. It’s their nature. It’s a good idea to use this rebellious nature appropriately. If not, the conversation may not go anywhere.

B. Aries (March 21-April 19)
Sometimes Aries can be very stubborn. This is when they will so no to everything. In these cases, it’s pointless to convince them because rationale and reasoning will not work.
 
IX. Having a pet preoccupation

A. Sagittarius (Nov 22-Dec 20)
Sagittarius think they are always right because they look at things from above. Whatever other normal people argue about are meaningless to them. There is no room for discussion because they are just always right.

B. Capricorn (Dec 21-Jan 20)
Capricorn make their judgments based on their own experiences. So whatever they can do, they think others can do too. But they tend to reject situations they had no previous experiences.
 
X. Aria Singing：Just showy

A. Leo(July 23-August 22)
Leo are enamored with being admired and worshiped. So they don’t care about what others are talking about. Leo want to be in the spotlight. Always.

B. Capricorn(Dec 21-Jan 20)
Capricorn are sometimes control-freaks. They want to control the process and the results of the discussion. They do not like arguments. This may lead to an impression of being too showy.
 
Are you sighing in relief because you didn’t see your zodiac sign? Here are some good things about these signs in dialogues:
 
Libra(Sept 23-Oct 23)
Libra are excellent communicators who are also excellent listeners. However, they can be indecisive in judgments at times.
 
Pisces (Feb 20-March 20)
Pisces often lack focus in what they say. They don’t like to stand out. It’s easy to overlook them at times. They seem to be living in their own worlds. Sometimes people think they are not totally there.
 
Scorpio(Oct 24-Nov 21)
Scorpio are not very talkative. But whenever they speak, you will hear them clearly. And they are mostly right on the spot. They are known for their logic and reasoning.
 
Dialogue has the magic power of turning conflicts into collaboration. By considering the unique personalities of different zodiac signs and avoiding their conversation potholes, we can truly communicate and avoid meaningless dialogue.

<10 Common Dialogue Potholes are from “The Magic of Dialogue “>